Skud, yes she married him, but if he goes off the rails does it mean she should continue to sweep things under the carpet and hope they get better? The best thing for her and him is to get intervention now before things get worse.
Also, you say this should have just been a police visit and warning, well that is basically what happened. The article said that she met with police (it just wasn't at home) and that a 'report' has been filed on the incident. He has not been charged yet, which suggests to me that she is taking precautions, but does not want to bring down the full force of the law on Delonte if she can help it.
The problems Delonte has been reported to have over the past couple of years (bipolar/ depression/ paranoia) do tend to lead to the breakdown of trust in relationships and sometimes violence of one form or another. So you've got to admit that there's a reasonable chance that she is not over-reacting.
I do agree with you that there sometimes appears to be an excessive focus on men as the sole perpetrators of domestic violence. I think that the stats might show that major physical violence is more commonly perpetrated by the male, but I do think it is a mistake to only look at the physical violence in a relationship.
I suspect that quite often there is a lot of verbal and psychological abuse going on in relationships before it gets to physical violence and that women are just as capable of using that sort of weapon as men are.
However it shakes out, I believe that in most cases there is some fault on both sides. That doesn't mean that physical violence is acceptable but it is valuable to try to understand the things that led to that violence.
Either way, I've seen what my friend has been through over the past two years dealing with accusations of domestic violence, a restraining order and being denied access to his kids and its pretty horrible (for both him and his ex-wife).
They will have pretty much kissed goodbye to two to three years of their lives and probably over $140k between them before the whole legal process is resolved.
I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.