Years ago

Coaching their own children?

Are coaches permitted to coach their own children in junior basketball?

(Mod: Rest removed. 1. Sniping, 2. Subjective claims.)

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Wayville 54  
Years ago

I guess if somebody is doing it the it is permitted!

Sounds like you answered your own question. If you have an issue take it up with your club.

These sorts of things have been going on for years. But unfortunately most clubs don't have the ability to find good coaches for all team. So sometimes a parent has to do it if they are the best person for the job.

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Years ago

If a parent is coaching and their child plays on the same day, the easiest way to get their child to the game is if they coach their own child.

Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but it sure beats not having a coach at all. Sometimes you even get a better coach than would otherwise be available - on occasion you see a very highly credentialled coach looking after an U10 or U12 team only because their kid is playing.

There will be questions raised over court time, the ability of the coach's child, the relative merits of the coach's child versus other kids in lower divisions.

You know at the first training (sometimes before) of the situation, so get over it. If you don't like it, change clubs and you'll probably get a different parent coach/child combination.

There were a few people other than Andrew that thought Lindsay Gaze did a reasonable job.

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Frigit Cat  
Years ago

Have to agree with above.

In most cases it is because it is an easy way for the coach to get their child to a game.

Some parents do go to the ends of the earth to make sure they coach their kids in Junior Comps.

The problem with this is that eventually the kid has to stand on there own two feet and be taught by a "stranger" (what a terible thought!)

If you have concerns about a parent coaching their kids , tread carefully, as you will no doubt look like a whinger.

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Camel 31  
Years ago

One season is great. The parent and the child get a kick out of it.Everyone is happy that the parent can help out. After that things get a bit strained.

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Years ago

I have no problem with it, if they are giving up their time to coach they may as well coach their own kid , could make it impossible otherwise. Most of the time they are harder on their own kids - however Its when they give their child the End of season team trophy thats a bit wrong. Seen that before!

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mohegan casino  
Years ago

did it once - best thing I ever did was keep right out of it

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Years ago

What about if the player deserves the trophy but their parent coaches your saying they shouldn't recieve it.

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Years ago

I can't see anything wrong with it as long as the coach can seperate the 2 roles. Parent before and after the game & trainings and coach during games & trainings. All players should be treated the same in the team. No special or harsh treatment.

If anything its probably harder for the child than the parent/coach. So I think the parent needs to be aware for the child/players feelings about the situation, and whether they are enjoying the parent coaching them or not.

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Years ago

One problem is when the parent follows their child through the age groups. Their child's peer group misses out on variety in their coaching. It's good if the coaching is good, but there aren't too many options if it's not so good.

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True Blue  
Years ago

One problem is that parents who coahc their own kids are willing to go around recruit players from other clubs so that they can have their kids team do well.

It is even worse when the president of the club writes the letters for them.

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Years ago

I dont like it that much. For me it would be hard both ways, coaching my kid i would probably either be too hard on him or too soft on him. and then being the kid i would be too worried that he is gonna either be too hard or too soft.

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Years ago

True Blue

its time to get over it......

what a cheap shot....people were innocently adding their thoughts to this topic

Move on and enjoy your basketball

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me 3  
Years ago

Seen and done it.Some parent coaches have also gotten to coach higher grade teams because of it.This should not happen the other kids in the team deserve the best coach for that Div,not just because the parent is available on the same day. If you want to coach you take the team that is of your coaching ability NOT your childs playing ability.

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Years ago

When i played Juniors my mum coached me for majority of it, sorta ended up wearing out our parent/child relationship as the only thing you had in common was that of basketball.

even after a few years of not playing the ridge is still there.

i think this can be the undoing, my mum was a fantastic coach, but when it came to me that was not the point.. i just wanted my mum at my games, watching her daughter play and being a parent.

Just think people should be wary of coaching their own child, or at least talk to the child before they consider taking up the role.

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amanda jones  
Years ago

I have seen plenty of it and only seen it done professionally once and i think that the dad was tougher on his child then others which is also tough.

I think that it's often tough for the kids as they get to hear plenty of you only make the tean as your dad/mum is the coach (in my experience this has been close to the truth).

Coaches that go through the age groups restrict their childs development - through the lack of exposure to other coaches and training techniques.

Stick to domestic dont be doing it at rep level and let your kids be what they want to be not what you think they should be.

Finally i have seen kids get left on the sidelines by the decision makers at state and national level and i think that its been because of coaching parents who push push push.

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Years ago

Better letting a parent do it than not having a coach like one Div 1 team going round thats had 10 coaches in 12 months.

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Years ago

Ill bite, which team would that be?

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Years ago

Depends on the circumstances. If the "parent " coach has experience and credibility with both the club and his/her peers and shows no bias then there seems to be no reason why a parent coach should not be considered. Coaches are hard to get especially for Div 3 down.
But unfortunately sometimes having a parent coach can be frought with problems.
Mid way through last season a parent was asked to step into the role of coach of our team. He already had significant bias against some of the players believing ( as parents often do) that his kid was not getting enough court time. His kid would continually stop in a game to tie shoelaces, forget which player they were defending and deliberately body contact when things did not go their way. Continual loose shots at the basket and travelling. Always crying and opting out of training when the parent was not present.But once Dad was made coach, this player was on court most of the time at the expense of stronger, more switched on players. This did nothing for team cohesion.Then that same same parent/coach would belittle other team members and at time outs called during games would ignore the kids, while they would be waiting for direction. Kids would, on a few occasions, cry in frustration after the games and get more insults.They went backward in their skills. They hated him. Kids have to toughen up and learn life skills..I can hear some say... yes of course but there is a way to teach those skills. I offered my child the opportunity to leave the team, pull out and wait for another season..but you can imagine the back lash that comes with that decision. So as a group of parents we allowed our children to "soldier on" reminding them that it would be soon over, and to do the best they could. Their committment to the Club,to the game, to each other was admirable.
No point complaining to the Club, it's one of those difficult situations where the Club is either not interested, can't do anything about it, or would just put it down to whinging parents because thats the easiest way to deflect it. This "coach " was a disgrace. Another Divisional coach was aware of and horrified at this persons approach ( and very supportive at training, as the parent/coach could not or was unable to attend) . Another club made comment after one of the games. After the season we were made aware that this person had coached at another club and was asked half way thru the season to step down.
Most of the kids in this team have now moved on or up, ( and not all at the same club or sport), except for the ex-coaches kid...
And the sad part of this is day he will be asked to coach again, because sometime, in the future, the club will be unable to secure decent coaches for the lower Divisions. Volunteers should be well rewarded and respected, but is respect not earned. (Note, this parent/coach person would have been at the game either way). Even sadder, he probably thinks he did a wonderful job.
So to the good parent coaches I applaud the others think twice, coaching is not a popularity contest and tough decisions have to be made but depends on an unbiased approach, appropriate behaviour and communication skills. Think about the consequences for your child/children.
Clubs should have better screening policies and no wonder other sports become more attractive.

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Years ago

That would be north 16s.

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Years ago

Actually no...but worse.... that means there are two of them. Sad days indeed.

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